Posted in Life, Thoughts

Take, Take, Take

I know I said I was going to try blog every week & that new blog posts would typically go live on Monday’s, yes I can confirm I’ve not stuck with another decision!

Want to know why I never make new years resolutions? This is why I can never seem to stick to them!

On another note: what goes to say that everything will suddenly change on one day of the year cause it’s a new year? Change is a working progress, it happens over time.

That brings me to the topic of today’s blog post. Today, I am reflecting on one of the many things I’ve learned in the last 2-3 years. Below is a statement I put on social media in the last few days:

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The above is an accurate description of something I’ve experienced in the last 2-3 years which has finally made me realise the sad truth of life that you can do everything & anything for someone for them to still toss you aside when they have no use for you.

There are also people who I no longer even talk to who still use and take from me even though I cut them out my life. The sad reality is: even when you cut someone out your life, they can still find a way to take the trash you left in the past & use it in order to make life easier for themselves & use it to somehow help progress their lives/careers.

“The best thing I did was leaving you in the past” – an accurate phrase to sum up certain people. You can’t change people, but you can change yourself. The older I get, the better I get at leaving behind toxic people & those who purposely screw me over.

I am thankful to everyone that has helped me, however, I am ALSO thankful to everyone that has hurt me or screwed me over. I firmly believe that all life experiences have something you can learn from them.

Some people you have to go through hell with before you can see the sunshine, others teach you a lesson while stabbing you in the back.

I have become a stronger person through the people who have hurt me & have become much better at seeing through people’s bullshit.

However, I have also met some amazing individuals who have shown me nothing but love but have taught me life lessons & helped me grow. A shoutout to those amazing women on this international women’s day.

Even the positive & good experiences have something you can learn & use to improve yourself, you just need to know where to look.

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Posted in Life

17 Things I Learned in 2017

Another year is over, another year begins. Let’s start the year with what I learned from 2017 since it was certainly a tough year.

  1. A happier life starts when you cut the snakes 🐍 out of your life (AKA the toxic people.)

  2. NEVER sacrifice your happiness for your career.

  3. Just because someone is older than you, doesn’t make them more responsible or more grown up.

  4. Just because someone is older than you, doesn’t mean they have got their life together.

  5. When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try and control what other people think of you – rise above it.

  6. No need for revenge or being petty towards the people who screw you over, they always get what they deserve.

  7. If someone puts your safety at risk then they are NOT your friend no matter how much you convince yourself they are.

  8. If someone lies to you and then lies some more when you confront them, let them go, they are NOT worth your time.

  9. Don’t actively search for friends and people who care about you. The ones who ACTUALLY care will come looking for you and will find a way to stay.

  10. Hold onto the ones who matter, let go of the snakes 🐍

  11. You can’t change other people’s minds about anything so don’t try.

  12. Toxic people won’t notice that they are hurting you until you cause them some inconvenience, they aren’t worth it.

  13. Stay silent, eventually, other people will see through the snakes 🐍bullshit just like you did and if they don’t, they aren’t worth having around.

  14. My anxiety is NEVER right about ANYTHING. Neither is YOUR anxiety. NEVER LISTEN TO ANXIETY.

  15. Even when you think no one cares about you, there will be someone waiting to prove you wrong.

  16. ALWAYS back up draft blog posts as WordPress has a tendency to delete them after you’ve spent a great deal of time on them.

  17. Your mental health is more important than anything else, put this first, everything else will wait and will improve when you are well.

These are some of the things I learned from 2017, what did you learn? Facebook ~ Twitter ~ Instagram

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