Posted in Thoughts

A Break From Blogging

When I started this blog, I wanted to blog regularly, it was an outlet for me to make sense of my feelings and what’s going on in my life. However, there was a spell when I spent so much time arranging blogging opportunities with other people that it became more about the deadlines rather than a hobby.

I’m not going to sugar coat it, I lost the meaning of my blog over the last year, my mental health plummeted and I didn’t even know who I was anymore nevermind trying to keep up a presence online focussed on the things I loved.

How can I have a blog about the things I love as a hobby if I don’t even know who I am or what I love? I began to keep track of how long it was between blog posts with a constant worry that I wasn’t blogging and that I was giving up on another thing, yet again when I should have just taken a break.

I’ve been speaking a lot recently about thing’s I’ve learned in 2017. Another thing I learned in 2017 is that it’s okay not to be okay and to take a break from things, in fact, things can improve if you take a break from time to time.

When you work in the media, study in media and put yourself in the media, there can be a pressure to keep going. The media industry feels at times like it has to be go-go-go all day long, all week long, all year long.

I’ve watched the people I admire in the public eye get criticised when there’s no video, music, project, whatever it may be from them. I’ve watched people I admire in the media feel pressured to be perfect online or pressured into continuing to create content all year around no matter what.

If you are reading this and are feeling that pressure: It’s okay to take a break from certain things or even everything that you are working on. It’s okay to rethink things, it’s okay to change your end goal.

It was only when I took a break for the most part from this blog in the second half of 2017, I began to breathe properly again without constantly worrying about the next piece of content.

When your passion or hobby becomes a chore that you dread, that’s when it’s time to take a break. It’s better to put your sanity first.

In 2018, I’m not going to chase after every little sponsorship, collab and free products in exchange for a blog post. I was chasing after these things so much that I lost interest in simply blogging about what I was interested in and as a result, I feel my content got significantly worse.

This isn’t a dig at anyone I worked with in 2017 for my blog, not at all. It’s a dig at my past self, yes I enjoyed these opportunities but I put more time into gaining them and less thought into what interested me. 2018 will be a very different year in terms of content.

I’m focussing on myself and what I want and that’s not just blogging-wise. I’m focussing on those career goals I’ve been too scared to pursue and I hope that by the end of 2018 I can actually say I’ve gone after some of my dreams.

I hope to be back to regular blogging in 2018 but one thing the last two years has taught me is that you never know what’s to come, things can change so easily and I think I’m becoming better at adapting to change than I used to be.

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Posted in Life

17 Things I Learned in 2017

Another year is over, another year begins. Let’s start the year with what I learned from 2017 since it was certainly a tough year.

  1. A happier life starts when you cut the snakes 🐍 out of your life (AKA the toxic people.)

  2. NEVER sacrifice your happiness for your career.

  3. Just because someone is older than you, doesn’t make them more responsible or more grown up.

  4. Just because someone is older than you, doesn’t mean they have got their life together.

  5. When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try and control what other people think of you – rise above it.

  6. No need for revenge or being petty towards the people who screw you over, they always get what they deserve.

  7. If someone puts your safety at risk then they are NOT your friend no matter how much you convince yourself they are.

  8. If someone lies to you and then lies some more when you confront them, let them go, they are NOT worth your time.

  9. Don’t actively search for friends and people who care about you. The ones who ACTUALLY care will come looking for you and will find a way to stay.

  10. Hold onto the ones who matter, let go of the snakes 🐍

  11. You can’t change other people’s minds about anything so don’t try.

  12. Toxic people won’t notice that they are hurting you until you cause them some inconvenience, they aren’t worth it.

  13. Stay silent, eventually, other people will see through the snakes 🐍bullshit just like you did and if they don’t, they aren’t worth having around.

  14. My anxiety is NEVER right about ANYTHING. Neither is YOUR anxiety. NEVER LISTEN TO ANXIETY.

  15. Even when you think no one cares about you, there will be someone waiting to prove you wrong.

  16. ALWAYS back up draft blog posts as WordPress has a tendency to delete them after you’ve spent a great deal of time on them.

  17. Your mental health is more important than anything else, put this first, everything else will wait and will improve when you are well.

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